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While waiting for my accomplices last evening, I took the opportunity for a short retreat in the book store. Picked up a cheery looking book with the title “Marry Smart – The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to True Love” – I’m in no rush, but how can a girl resist the title and pastel themed cover!

I used to wrinkle irritably at the sight of such books. Some friends cosmically bombarded me with a series of paperbacks on the Mars and Venus gap forcing a personal opinion from me after I’ve “read” them. I really couldn’t sit down with a book who was telling it to my face that I should be doing this and not that.

I was incredibly determined to not let my life be ruled by what was written in a series of pages. A capable woman like myself? I believed that I really didn’t need these pitches. Who needs another trick to know about how to play “rubber-band” with the male interest or examining his psyche.

Perhaps, it may be because I was lucky enough to learn about love and relationships through my life experiences and through engagement with other people. There are truths in such books and it did not hit me until yesterday evening that even the most successful of women would still pick up a read like this: to assure themselves and how women yearn for that security of knowing that something in their life is being done right; and if wrong, seek the right.

Even bright women, make mistakes. Flipping through the pages making quick remarks in my head (mostly in the similar lines of –Duh! As if I don’t know), other scripted wisdoms were friendly reminders on the mechanics of what I was doing for #SeptemberSocials

Marry Smart by Dr.Christine B. Whelan was a book designed for successful women in their 30’s and 40’s who have yet to encounter true love as it may they may seem preoccupied with work or fairly intimidating. She calls these ladies SWANS –Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse.

For those women who know what they want out of life and are out to get it/or have already made your way there, tell me if these two little snippets from the book are true. One on how women’s preferences for a man’s character have changed from 1939 to 1996 and what strong, bold women really want in a man. (And THAT’S WHY I don’t listen to my aunts of mother when it comes to what I want)

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And this is the 10 things that SWANS want in a man…how true….

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