Verves In Composition

With September Socials moving on into October Outings, there are some things I have to get out in the open. I’m not being selective but it’s necessary that I at least attempt to clear some air and breathing space…

i) Understand that Facebook is my personal space.

What’s even worse is when I send you a message on why you want to add me as a friend, with the standard cut and page message of the following:

“Hi sorry, but have we met? Please understand that Facebook is my personal space and that I only add friends who I have a relative amount of interaction with or have met before. Thank you.”

you reply with an apologetic withdrawal. e.g.

“Sorry sorry just asking. *and it just ends there*”

or adding a few more centimeters of hide by saying:

“So still can be friends arh? kekeke.”

*Also please don’t go round checking out my other HOT girlfriends on my friends list and go on an adding spree.

ii) Adding me on my IMs doesn’t mean you bypass the form

Everyone fills in the form, it’s only fair. Even the most gentlemanly of my date. You can try, I’ll only tell you to refer back to the form. The form is as important as me getting to know you better, to make sure you’re not a weird person, a stalker or a psycho. It is a mere unintrusive background check just to know that I can assure the people that care can let me enjoy my dates without worrying their heads off.

It gauges your genuine interest, your ability to communicate, if you are trying too hard, and tells me just enough about you in just a few lines

iii) Never push me for an answer…or approval.

As much as you are the eager beaver, Like boyfriends being rushed into a marriage, I never like that sort of push. I will avoid you like the Black Death. Although I should be flattered that you’re very much interested to go out with me, give me time and I will sort it out. After Raya means alot of events will start popping out from here and there and I will be tied down with lots of work.

iv) Don’t ask me strange questions

…..or if I like “sex talk”, if I could look up my skirt to check what I’m wearing today, how I like my bratwurst served, or if I would send you my underwear by express or snail mail. As entertaining to you as your requests may seem, it’s not funny to a girl who holds herself with high regard. It’s really insulting.

Especially when you ask me, “May I ask you a personal question?” You probably know there is a likelihood it’s going to end up a bad question.

v) There is no wrong answer to the form.

It’s not a question of multiple choice or factual matters but rather a question of engagement. The moment I detect something I believe I will be uncomfortable with I will choose not to continue with the date. Communication is such an vital element of the date and I believe there should be a sustainable level of two way.

vi) Don’t ever question my principles, morals, beliefs and priorities, or worse, try to change the way I think.

You make me sound like a criminal asking me why I didn’t do such and such or follow such and such. Thank you for your personal and political POVs but I’m really not interested.

As for my priorities, understand that work, my friends and family do come first. Don’t tell me I should have not attended my friend’s party to go out on a date with YOU ( shows that you don’t really care about me but only yourself.)

vi) Some of my dates are private to protect them

Unless you are my best friends, the identities of my dates, what we do and how I feel about them are between me and them. I feel there is no need to go into detail with you because September Socials is not a comparison game and you don’t need to purposely overthrow the rest with a grand plan of your own. Please just be yourself.