There are people in this world, who expect you to relate to their situation when they are in need of a reason to let it all out.
Then there are people who practically force you to comply with action with pushy justifications and ‘guilt’ buttons.
Worse still they condone their own behavior towards you for something you didn’t do.Bear in mind, it’s really not about ‘Siapa termakan cili, dia yang terasa pedas‘ (Malay proverb for – He who eats chilli will taste it’s spicyness (fiery-ness))
However, with all this social ‘conditioning’ sometimes, where do you draw the lines between sincerity and conformity? I don’t mind giving a helping hand every so often, but what really is the point when at the end of the day, the people that you have helped don’t learn to stand on their own two feet? Even when it comes to friendship sometimes, gosh, you’re not being a real friend if you keep dragging your friend to wallow and drown in your misery.
Then again, I do have civic skills and I’m definitely born with a head and heart good enough to know that it’s not wise to leave the old lady crossing the street alone. I’m not some haughty nasty who just wants to stay out of your radar, you only have yourself to blame for the problems in your life.
Some of us were born lucky, but being born under a shiny star doesn’t mean you don’t encounter difficulty either. We’re human. Never perfect.
Forget perfectionism. Then again If you truly have a remarkable personality as you think you do (seen it all, done it all); A tough childhood, a disease, a maelstrom of bad luck does not ever entitle you to be an individual leeching of others when and as you see fit. (Neither when you have factual backup and credit that you are a great person) That’s just an excuse.
You never know if the person you are talking to has had seen more than your eye has met.
Seriously. Think about it.
Thank you so much for that post.